How To Successfully Talk To Girls

Okay, I only have a guy's point of view, but I have recently asked different peoples opinions for this article.

Okay, this is mainly for guys. 

Guys, when approaching a girl. First thing you want to ask yourself is "What do I want?" Do you want to make a friend, to start a relationship, or just talk to a hot chick? Okay, when it comes to girls, they have different reactions to everything. 

If you're trying to start a relationship or a friendship, I wouldn't suggest using a one-liner. Most girls, will find it humorous but if you stay and talk to them, they'll think you're immature. So if you're a one-liner kind of guy or you want to say a one-liner to a girl. Tell it to her, she'll most likely laugh, then walk away. 

If you actually want to start something big, It sounds corny, but be yourself. Girls can see through the us. They can tell if we're nervous or if we are totally fake. So when approaching a girl, take a deep breath and walk up to her. It also helps if you first make eye contact, so she will know that you exist before walking up to her randomly. Also make sure you walk up to her from the front, don't walk up to her from behind, that could be awkward. 

Flirtation is key when talking to girls. You don't want to over do it, but you have to flirt a little bit just to let the girl know you're interested in them. Otherwise, they might just think you're bored and want to talk to someone. Girls don't always understand us and we never understand them, so trust me on this one I've gotten girl's opinions to back this up. 

When talking to the girl, never ask her straight up if she has a boyfriend. Let her tell you. If you ask her straight up, then you'll get shut down straight away. Let her get to know you first and then ask her for her number, then if she doesn't reject you even if she does have a boyfriend, you at least made a new friend or if she doesn't give it to you because she does have a boyfriend, well now you know she has a boyfriend. 

Asking for her number, this is probably the easiest part about talking to a girl. The hardest part is when to do it. Ask her at the end of the conversation. Don't ask her in the middle and definitely not in the beginning. When you finished having a long conversation, ask for it. Just ask, don't say anything cheesy or you might ruin the whole conversation. 

After you have her number, start texting and calling her. Don't go by the three day rule. If you wait three days, the girl might forget who you are and then you'd get that awkward "Sorry, who is this?". No one wants that. The best thing I've noticed is after you leave and you have her number and make sure she has yours too, because that's always awkward too. So after you leave, text her and tell her is was great to meet her and you hope to see her again soon. Then the next day, call her. 

Follow these guidelines and I promise you, you will achieve victory. 

Get To The Point

I'm not sure about you, but usually when I talk to a girl for the first time I like to actually talk to them have an actual conversation before asking for their number or asking them out. But that doesn't work as well as I hoped after failing a few times. The best way to do it is it get straight to the point.

This is what you do:
1. Introduce yourself to the person you want to talk to.
2. Ask them three questions. 1st question: Are you married? 2nd question: Are you engaged? 3rd question: Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?
3. Depending on her/his answer. If they have none of the three, either ask for their number or give them yours. If she does have one of the three, be polite and walk away.

This way works very well, at least for me it has. The only thing I don't like about it is that I don't really get to know the person, but that's probably a good thing if she has a boyfriend or something, so I don't get too attached the person before finding out their "story".

Hope this works for all of you who are struggling. It's helped me. So good luck to all of you.

Should I Continue Or Not?

I've been noticing recently a lot of people, who have been turned down by someone, think if they keep trying or try harder something will happen. I'm here to tell you 9 times out of 10, it won't work. Trust me, coming from a personal experience, it doesn't work. It just makes it harder on you. It's hard enough getting over the first time, but a second or third time isn't any better, it's worse.

It's not like the movies, love isn't as easy to find as Hollywood makes it look. Romantic comedies are not truthful, unfortunately. I remember watching 10 Things I Hate About You, it's a good movie. Heath Ledger and J.G.L. in their early years. But after being rejected once, it's not going to happen in the real world, unless you are really lucky, which is unlikely.

After the person rejects you, don't continue to try to impress him/her, it's not worth it. If your thinking if you keep trying to impress them they will think that you are determined and end up going out with you, they don't. They will either think or tell you that it's not worth it, that they will  never change their minds. Which is harder on you than the rejection.

So spare your feelings and walk away from a rejection. And it's best not to become friends with that person, even if you tell them you just want to be friends, because you and I both know that's not true. You still have feeling for them and you're hoping if they hang out with you enough they will see your true self and begin to like you that way, but they won't. They'll see you as a friend and if you make any advances, they'll be confused and it'll be awkward between the two of you.

It's better to just walk away from a rejection. It may not seem polite, but they will appreciate it more if you do and it'll be easier on you too.

The Word Of Defeat

No. The word, no, is the ultimate word of defeat. No is never good. Unless you ask someone if they are going to kill you and they say no, but that's a different story.

Depending on your personality, when a guy likes a girl and wants to ask her out and do it right, it takes between ten minutes to two hours to get up the courage to ask her out, but it takes her two seconds and one word to crush it all.

Sometimes I wished instead of someone seeing your exterior, they would see your interior. Your personality. Basically showing someone your profile. Think of how much easier life would be. You would know if someone was sincere, a jerk, a loser, a liar, or even really extreme like a Satan worshiper or a murderer. Then if you looked at the profile then you would have a better perspective of what you are getting into or what you are avoiding.

Going back to the word of defeat. This is why it is harder for guys than it is for girls. Guys have to do the asking out and girls, all you have to do is say yes or no. I am not a girl, so I don't know what you think when you say yes or no, but when you say no, do you feel sorry about it? Or are you flattered? Or are you flattered, but you don't care at all?

See I don't know what people think, if a girl were to ask me out and I wasn't interested. I'd be flattered and I'd feel sorry about it, because I know how difficult it is to ask someone out.

Please leave your thoughts, comments, and questions. I am very interested in what you all think of these situations.

Facebook: Addiction Or Resource?

Just like the rest of the world, when Facebook came first came out. I opened an account. It is now closed. Why? Mainly because I found it pointless. 

Facebook started as a resource tool to connect to family and friends who you didn't see all the time. Now it's a huge social gathering. What's worse about it is that people think it's a good idea to put all their information about themselves on there including their phone numbers, addresses, personal information, pictures, etc.. 

Who thought this was a good idea? People can hack other peoples accounts, it doesn't matter if you blocked them or not, there is always a way. Besides the fact that your personal information can get out through the world and could possibly be harmful to you and your family. It's also not a good thing to have if you're looking for a professional job. 

Yes, when you apply at a job, they Google you. And what pops up, your Facebook. Lets just say you have pictures of yourself on there partying, drinking, whatever. It's not going to be good for you. They will think that you always party and you always drink. Even if it was only that one time, they will remember it when they pass up on your application. 

If you don't believe me, just Google your name and see what comes up. I'm guessing Facebook will be the first thing to pop up and also, check Google images for yourself too, because you will be in there. 

Back to Facebook being an addiction. There are so many people on Facebook, it's ridiculous. What's even more ridiculous is all the drama. Facebook is basically an online high school. I couldn't believe how many petty little fights I would see every day on there. If you don't like that person, then why are you their friend? Delete them and block them, that'll solve your problem. But no, you can't do that, then you can't make fun of them. You see, addiction, it's like a drug. Facebook is like a drug. You can't stop when you start. 

Another thing, the whole "Facebook official" thing has got to be one of the most dumbest things I have ever heard. What is the big deal with relationships on Facebook? Nobody cares and if they do care, then they have no lives, I'm sorry. What really bothered me was when people would post pictures of themselves making out with there bfs/gfs. Nobody wants to see that. If you want to see it, make it your background for you phone or your computer, but don't put it on Facebook. Another thing, what is it with couples posting "I love you" on each other's wall? What ever happened to calling or texting? You know the only reason people post that kind of stuff on other people's wall is to get the "awe"s. All they want is the attention.

I'm sorry if you disagree with my final conclusion, but Facebook is an addiction. 

Is It Mr, Mrs, Or Miss?

You start out life in the early stages of school starting at pre-kindergarten or pre-k. From pre-k through 12th grade you have to call your teacher/principal by either Mr., Mrs, or Miss. I understand it teaches respect for your elders, but why is it after you graduate from high school that all changes?

Think about it, first job. You don't call your boss Mr. or Mrs. unless you work in some sort of corporation. You call your bosses by their first names or perhaps a nickname. Another example: College. Depending on what college you attend, it may differ. Community colleges, you can call your professors by their first names, usually. Big name schools/universities, different story. They want you to use your knowledge from when you were just a small child in elementary school through high school. They want you to call them by a professional title like Professor so and so. Not Mr., Mrs., or Miss, it's now Professor.

Then it gets really professional the higher you get. Especially in government. Mr. Mayor, Mr. Congressman, Mr. Governor, Mr. President, etc.. I mean royalty I understand, Prince William, Queen Elizabeth, etc.. But professors and government workers, interesting isn't it?

Why Online Dating Doesn't Work

The whole online dating thing is growing, but why? When you're on a dating site, all you can see is someone's profile and maybe their picture. So you view their profile, say they like dogs, pizza, basketball and their picture looks attractive. That's not very much information.

Think about it, I'm not saying all, but I'm pretty sure some lie on their profiles. How do you know that is a picture of themselves? Everyone has heard about people posting images of models on their profiles, how do you know that the person you're talking to didn't do that if you never met them?

Besides the fact that the person may be lying about their information, how about the fact that the person is on an online dating site. Now I know it's difficult for some people to find love the transitional way, believe me, I understand, but why are their so many people on dating sites? Are they so desperate to find love? Can they not find anyone in the outside world? Now, sometimes that's true, no offense to you all who has trouble with that.

All these people who have their accounts, are they actually looking for someone or are they just browsing? The people who are actually looking for real, I respect you. The world is rough, if online dating works for you then great, continue to use it. But if you're just on there to see what else there is to offer and you can easily find a date in the transitional way, get off the site, cancel your subscription and cancel your account. There are people on there who are actually looking for their soul mate and you are in their way of finding that person.

For everyone who is on a dating and seriously looking for a relationship, it really helps people out if you have a picture. If you don't have a picture and a great profile, well, I'm sure you understand my meaning. Again for all of you who are just browsing like you're shopping for a car, don't be on a dating site, I'm almost positive you can find someone outside the internet. For all you who are on there looking for your soul mate, good luck to you.