I've been noticing recently a lot of people, who have been turned down by someone, think if they keep trying or try harder something will happen. I'm here to tell you 9 times out of 10, it won't work. Trust me, coming from a personal experience, it doesn't work. It just makes it harder on you. It's hard enough getting over the first time, but a second or third time isn't any better, it's worse.
It's not like the movies, love isn't as easy to find as Hollywood makes it look. Romantic comedies are not truthful, unfortunately. I remember watching 10 Things I Hate About You, it's a good movie. Heath Ledger and J.G.L. in their early years. But after being rejected once, it's not going to happen in the real world, unless you are really lucky, which is unlikely.
After the person rejects you, don't continue to try to impress him/her, it's not worth it. If your thinking if you keep trying to impress them they will think that you are determined and end up going out with you, they don't. They will either think or tell you that it's not worth it, that they will never change their minds. Which is harder on you than the rejection.
So spare your feelings and walk away from a rejection. And it's best not to become friends with that person, even if you tell them you just want to be friends, because you and I both know that's not true. You still have feeling for them and you're hoping if they hang out with you enough they will see your true self and begin to like you that way, but they won't. They'll see you as a friend and if you make any advances, they'll be confused and it'll be awkward between the two of you.
It's better to just walk away from a rejection. It may not seem polite, but they will appreciate it more if you do and it'll be easier on you too.
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